Firstly, I want to apologize for not writing to you last week. I was travelling/ moving/ resettling and was unable to make a post. But, I am back and will resume regular Sunday posts!
Here’s this week’s post:
Have you ever stopped to wonder what if the words you say or write to a relative, friend, colleague, or even a stranger, were the last they would ever hear or see?Maybe we should.
There’s a saying “you can’t take back your words”- and I think it is very true. We can apologize for something negative that was expressed, after reflecting on it, but most likely that is after the damage has already been done. The person/ persons on the receiving end would have already been hurt or affected in some way and then has to recover or, depending on the individual’s personality or state of mind, may be emotionally scarred for life.
You see, we never really know what goes on in another person’s mind and we never really know how many threads are left on someone’s hope rope on life. We also never really know if what we say or write may be that one thing that pushes someone over the edge- even to return physical harm to us or others.
Psychologists say there are usually telltale signs of suicide. But, in my opinion, some of those signs may either be misunderstood by loved ones and unintentionally ignored or successfully disguised by the individual. Sometimes people suffer in silence or pretend for the world.
I also believe that those who are hurt or hurting should let it be known! We cannot depend on people to always interpret what we are feeling or want to say. We are the best spokespersons for our thoughts.
My philosophy is that we should use hugging words. Do you ever warmly embrace someone you do not like very much or someone who might deliberately harm you? If your answer is no, then, like me, you would simply not hug the person. Therefore, you don’t have to articulate anything to someone you dislike or who is aggressive. Likewise, if you had on a bodysuit covered with a harmful substance, would you hug the people you love in it or wait until you are able to remove it before proceeding with your hug? If the latter is your response, then so should we use our words- wait until they’re huggable to givethem.
No one is perfect and I am not saying our words will always be nice ones, but instead, that we should try to think about what we say or write before we express them. A negative comment can still be huggable, depending on how it is phrased. It will never be possible to always premeditate our expressions, but the more hurt we spare others is the less time we spend in remorse.
I have learnt that life is too short to have a trail of regrets, as we cannot turn back the hands of time- we should say what we mean and mean what we do.